Seeing a positive result on a pregnancy test is a life-altering moment for anyone. But when you are in high school, that moment can feel like the world is stopping.
If you are staring at a positive test right now, you might feel a rush of panic. You might be thinking, “My life is over,” “What will my parents say?” or “How can I finish school?”
First, take a deep breath. Just breathe.
At Lilies of Hope, we want you to know that your life is not over. It is changing, yes, but you are strong, and you do not have to walk this path alone.
It’s Okay to Be Scared
The first thing you need to know is that your feelings are valid. Fear, anger, confusion, and shock are all normal responses to an unexpected pregnancy.
Psychologically, when we experience a shock like this, our brains often go into “fight or flight” mode. It can be hard to think clearly or make rational decisions when you are in a state of high anxiety. That is why the most important thing you can do right now is slow down. You do not need to have everything figured out today.
First Step: Confirm the Pregnancy
Before you worry about “the talk” with your parents or make any big decisions, you need to be sure of what is happening in your body. Home tests are accurate, but they are just the first step.
We offer free services to help you get the medical facts you need:
- Lab-Quality Pregnancy Tests: Verify your home result with a medical-grade test.
- Ultrasounds: If your test is positive, an ultrasound is essential to determine how far along you are and to confirm that the pregnancy is viable (has a heartbeat and is in the uterus).
Breaking the News
The thought of telling your parents or guardian can be terrifying. You might be afraid of disappointing them or worried about their reaction.
This is where we can help. Sometimes, it helps to have a neutral, safe place to process your thoughts before you talk to anyone else. At Lilies of Hope, we offer a confidential environment where you can talk through your fears. We can help you role-play the conversation, giving you the tools and confidence to share your news when you are ready.
You Have Options
You might feel like you have been backed into a corner, but you have choices. It is crucial to step back and look at the full picture of your choices:
- Parenting: It might seem impossible right now, but many teens successfully parent and finish school with the right support system.
- Adoption: This is a courageous choice that allows you to plan for your child’s future if you feel you aren’t ready to parent.
- Abortion: We can provide you with factual, medical information about procedures and risks so you understand the full picture.
Your Education: You Have Rights
One of the biggest fears high schoolers face is the worry that they will have to drop out or that they will be treated differently by teachers and peers.
It is important for you to know that you have legal protections. Under a federal law known as Title IX, your education is protected.
- You cannot be kicked out: Schools cannot exclude you from classes or extracurricular activities because you are pregnant.
- You have the right to stay: You are allowed to continue your education just like any other student.
- Excused absences: Your school must excuse absences due to pregnancy or childbirth, for as long as your doctor says is necessary.
You have a right to your future, and a pregnancy does not strip you of your education or your goals.
Come See Us – No Cost, No Judgment
You don’t have to figure this out in your bedroom or a school bathroom.
At Lilies of Hope, our doors are open to you. We respect you, your body, and your privacy. No matter what your situation is, you will be met with compassion, not judgment.
You are stronger than you think.
Schedule an appointment online or visit our contact page to reach out. We are here to listen.